The journey begins

[ClingingToHope]

And if she filed, don't you have to be the one to propose the initial settlement?

I have no idea. I haven't heard anything in two weeks since getting a letter from my L that this "wish list" was supposedly coming.

The last time I met with my L he asked me if I wanted to put a proposal out there and I told him I wasn't emotionally ready. Then he asked if he should propose the four of us in a room together to hammer out an agreement. I told him I wasn't ready for that either.

Well, he said, we could just sit back and wait and let the process play itself out.

That felt better to me. If W wants a divorce it's up to her to push it, at least for now. Maybe I'll wake up this summer and say, I'm done, let's go, and start pushing.

I'm still not there yet.

As far as talking to the girls, yes, I think I have to improve. I've made it clear to them that I don't want to be away from them and this isn't my choice.

Now I have to let that go and make the most of my time with them.