2 years later it's still not getting easier

[Cautious]

I know exactly what you mean by that last sentiment. Everyone wants their family together, and, in my opinion, there's no reason a relationship should ever end. The only reason they do is because people become selfish and self serving rather than working on the problems. And usually the damage is so great by the time they get help that they have no choice but to call it quits.

We just keep living the same relationships over and over again, just the scenery changes. That's why second and third marriages have such a large percentage of failure. JMHO.

And by scenery, I mean that the fights aren't EXACTLY the same (In my M, money was an issue, but I could get with a fiscally responsible person and we might fight over how to discipline my S), but there's still the same amount of conflict. Maybe in lower doses. Maybe the new person is more willing to work. But either which way, it's always the same. I'd just rather have my family all together than try to incorporate a new person into a father role to my S and have the conflicts between the two "dads" to add to my level of stress.

((whitney)) You are absolutely doing the right thing, IMO.