Will I ever be forgiven???

[Mom of 2 Cherubs]

Hi Big John,

I appreciate your candor. Your sitch is a bit different than mine in that our children do not know about the A. In time i am sure they will know and i will deal with it when they are older. I don't ever expect that they will understand but i just hope they will be better able to see things from both sides and not be so angry at me. I truly fear the day my children know the whole truth.

Yes this new man knows ALL about my D. He is/was the OM. That fact alone is what I believe will hinder me and XH to ever really being friends again. I am sure your (and others) response to this will be, make a choice between XH and BF - but it is not that simple, not for me anyway.

So I know that it is not about me getting everything I want - it's not ever going to happen. i just hope we can get to a place that is more civil and respectful.

I truly wish you luck in your sitch and hope that you are all able to come to place where there is peace between you and the relationships can be mended. Esp between your STBXW and the kids.