That sounds more like where you're going. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.
Yet what are you hoping for.. your wife's wish list? I found that lawyers quoted the traditional breakouts. And if she filed, don't you have to be the one to propose the initial settlement?
Instead of worrying about her wish list, make up your own. Know ahead of time what your legal rights and expectations should be. And what strategies work to make what's lacking happen. Your wife is setting her foundation by having her mom help out. Make sure you cover yourself, too.
It's great that you have such great communication with your kids. Being aware of TMI boundaries is better. Look into books that coach you on what to share. It's not your job to validate their mother's actions or give a percentage on how likely a divorce is to happen. I know one father who told his young children that he loved their mother, and that he wanted her to be happy. Simple, straightforward.
What does work is telling your daughters that you are not going anywhere. That you love them. Reassure them. Let the kids be kids.
Remember, they are not your confidant, they are your daughters. Let them be children, you be the dad.
Who knows what your wife's plan is. But you can make your own instead of waiting her to tell you how high to jump.
