How do I act?

[Surviving03]

I have gone to counseling 4 times now and I plan to continue going, although it seems to be nothing more than me venting my issues and the counselor serves as my ear. I am so confused about my H going dark on me.. that scares me. I know what he wants more than anything is be in love and he thinks we lost that, so that tempts me to express to him how much i understand what he is feeling and how much i want that the both of us. I am an emotional wreck, I go up and down up and down.... which im sure we all do. The thing is, when I read alot of stories about WAW, it sounds like the thing to do for the man is to be strong and confident and going dark and all that would work better for a man because woman want a strong confident man... but does it really work the same for a woman to do? When my husband is wanting to feel "in love"? does it work to GAL and be brief with him and go dark and all that?