WAH in MLC with PA

[DiamondGirl]

I've been thinking a lot overnight (I know.. dangerous)... and am wondering if H going to school funded by monies he would not be allowed since it was based on his living at home with our financial responsibilities is a form of cake eating?

Isn't my standing back and allowing that to happen enabling him to a certain extent?

I admit part of my feelings stem from anger which is why I am exploring the idea without doing anything right now... (trying to learn the 48 hour rule)

Basically he is obtaining skills on the ashes of our marriage to use in his "new life" with OW... What benefit would I receive from him continuing to do so? Pretty much none since by his actions and words so far, I'm getting next to nothing money wise from him...

MLC is a gamble and there is no guarantees that he is going to come out of this at all...

And something Jack said on another post yesterday struck a chord... He basically said that by the time the MLCer comes out, the LBS is farther ahead emotionally...

In looking back, I think I've always been farther ahead than H.. and our marriage was spent, to a large degree, with me adjusting to compensate for H's emotional shortcomings (job losses due to him quitting, my taking the reins all the time because he didn't know how to motivate himself..)

Part of me wonders if I could go back to doing that again.. But maybe because I'm changing and developing boundaries that wouldn't happen.. If it did, I don't know that I would want that kind of marriage again..