seperated a year

[hanging in there]

Ty NW
I too see the baby steps but also don't want to read too much into anything. Not sure if he wants me to go or not but I'm not going to bring it up. He will have to ask don't think he is there yet.

I'm hoping my comment about making other plans will plant a seed of mystery but time will tell. I too worry that when I don't contact him he will contact his EA but then I realised I can't control that. All I can control is myself. In the past I could tell when he was contacting her because he would often be cold and nasty to me. Reminding me he was done and would never be coming home.

I do know he still contacts her (can access phone usage) but it doesn't seem to be as much anymore but still too much for me and also more than he contacts me. So I needed to go NC to see if I could get his focus off her and on me

Even with the baby you can still do NC only make contact if it is strictly business involving your child. I'm no expert but I going NC has allowed me so peace of mind in a strange way.