2 years later it's still not getting easier

[whitneypinch]

Hello all,

Thanks for the responses.

Cautious, dogsledding was fantastic. I do everything with my kids. I took them whitewater rafting, Miley Cyrus concerts, monster trucks, art galleries, skiing, ballet, museums, travelling etc. I expose them to everything possible. There is nothing I love more than to be with my kids experiencing life.

Right now my kids are on March break with my EX. They are at a Club Med. I have only been away from them for a day and I miss them soooo much.

My EW never have R talk and just talk about the kids. She asks about work but that is where it stops. I don't ask her about anything as it's too painful to hear all the great things in her life that I am no longer a part of.

I have done all the DB stuff. Sometimes I backslide as I miss my family so much. About 2 months ago I said to hell with all this "strategy" and just showed only love to my EW. I was very affectionate in the emails I sent her. She return the affection in many of them but then pulled back.
It seems that she mirrors back to me how I treat her. If I leave her alone she stays away. If I email her then she emails me....

Please don't read any of this and think there are baby steps here and that my EW is coming around. I think it's more about the nature of my EW. Everyone likes her and she does not like it when someone does not like her. I think she just is the way she is to makes things better for all of us in the family. I think she just wants us to all be friendly.

Ya.... not feeling so great right now.

I just miss my family.