feel like giving up - pt 2

[S.T. _I Made It!]

Mind - I just didn't answer because I didn't feel he needed to know. Besides, isn't he the one who said, "Luv I don't care get that through your head" so if he doesn't care he shouldn't ask.

I am not trying to be mysterious I just wanted the one day to be away and not have to answer to anyone - like he does. I won't be doing that again - I just did it to make a point - point taken - it bothered him - my goal accomplished.

G - you tend to give Mr Luv too much credit. I must say I do not believe he is trying to reconnect. I am not going to try and read into it I'm just going to keep doing what I've been doing - being nice but distant and living for me!

I would need to see true remorse for what he's done. I just don't see that happening. If it does I'd be more than happy to work on my marriage and forgive him. If he thinks we are going to continue in this limbo "luvless" marriage I REFUSE.

I know I have some serious thinking to do....

okay, it's one thing to make a point, but you have done this before, and just because you make a point, doesn't mean you get closer to your goal, or you get the result you want. like G said about the dog.

and again, you are bringing negativity to the good things your H is doing. I do not believe your H to be some conniving evil man plotting to be nice to you so that he can have his revenge at the most opportune time. I'm sorry, that's not it. You H is human, and he's going to be mean sometimes because he's hurting, and other times he is going to try to reconnect. and that IS what he is doing. He didn't marry you because he hated you.

if you TRULY want this to work, you have to change your attitude. and if your H asks you about the weekend again and you still won't tell him, just tell him what you told us. "H, I'm sorry I didn't tell you when you asked before, I just needed some time alone. I'd really rather not discuss it, just like I don't try discuss yours, but if it's really that important to you, let me know what you are concerned about." otherwise, you are just doing the same thing he has done that you hate, and what is that saying to him?


G said some really good things, as did others. heed their words. not listen. heed.

and happy birthday girl!!