How (and who) to expose if OP is not married

[4luv]

This is my post from January 19, 2010 under newcomers:

thx everyone for you supportive words. I still feel numb. Husband and I talked for two hours last night and I told him I just want the truth. I told him that I do not want a divorce but I see no other option when he is not willing to put any effort into the marriage. Then I just let him talk and sort of followed the lead because I wanted the truth or at least see his version of the entire picture and it was worst than I thought.

I told husband that I felt that I was the only one getting the lies and he said that isn't true. That he is lying to everyone in his "triangle" because its all a game to him. He says he gets an adrenaline rush by doing what he is doing. he says I probably think I am the only one getting the lies because I am the one that asks him the most questions and we live together. He told me that OW #1 (this is the one he has child by) is getting lied to as well. he wouldn't tell me the exact lies but he says that he has been manipulating her and stroking her ego to see their child. OW #1 lives 9 hours away and he told me that they have been in a PA for 6 months. She drives to see him and pays for a hotel room. OW #2 also lives about 9 hours away...they also went to college together and they meet at a half way point. Both OW know that he is married but OW #2 thinks that we are separated.

My husband denied that OW #1 knows anything about us and our marital problems which I know to not be true. The text messages that she sent with divorce information lets me know that she knows. I pressed him on his motives to basically start a relationship with her and he said "do you really think I would leave one relationship and jump into another?" i didn't answer becasue crazier things have happened.

So, that leaves me in a weird place. Usually people on this site try to bust up the affair but I have no affair to bust up because he has come clean (for the most part) about everything.