My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

hmama,
This is not wisdom and therefore not what you're looking for, but I plan on absolutely no relationship or contact.

She has violated, broken and nullified our friendship in so many ways and so many times that I am dropping her as I would any friend who did likewise.

I am fortunate, of course in that all the kids are grown and out and we had none together, so there's no co-parenting relationship to be defined.

Wiser folk will be along shortly, I'm sure.

oh, gardener--I was too vague!!

I meant--relationship with someone else! My relationship with xH is over except for co-parenting a really wonderful kid, and I'm very comfortable with it being limited to that.

I'm just trying to negotiate a sorta-kinda friendship/relationship with a good, kind man who lives 800 miles away, is sorting through his own issues and life, and with whom I share some amazing synchronicity and probably potential for something very positive. And dealing with my own self-doubt, triggers, baggage, and neediness in that. That's the relationship I was referring to in my last post!