talked to W about S8 and some minor communication problems. Went fine then she went into D talk. She wants to start getting our things together to start mediation or she will just get a atty. if I'm going to drag my heals.
I told her I was not ready to get a divorce yet. I did not want to break up my family. It's too important to me to just give up so easily. She asked well how long then. One month, a year, how long? I said maybe never, less then two months is not enough time to make such a life changing decision. I don't know how you can think it is.
Do you realize what this will do to S8, I said. He will be fine, it only took a couple of weeks last time (last year) for him to get better. I then went into some stats, and my concerns for the future problems he will have. She didn't want to hear any of it. It's so frustrating. She is convinced what she is doing will end with minimal damage.
This is what's best for her and S8. I said I feel the same about him and I. Divorce is not better than staying married. It's not right. What you are doing is not right.
Why would you want to live with someone who does not love you, she said. I said I know you don't mean that.
Then the rest of it was the same crap...I'm done, I don't want to do this anymore, blah blah
I know I talked too long. She really caught me by surprise talking about the D. I really don't know what to say. I don't want to get a divorce.
I brought up seeing IC. She said she is, and that she thinks S8 should too. I was glad to hear that, not sure I believe her though. I then brought up going together, she freaked out thinking I was talking about MC. No we have other options, family, co-parenting, or any other C to help all of us.
It ended badly. She started to yell over and over she wanted a divorce, so I said I want to stay married once, goodnight, and I hung up.
If we are not to believe 100% of what our S say to us at this time when do we start?
