I misunderstood a lot and I Thank you for explaining it to me so that I could better see it.
Don't worry about that, people reach understanding at different levels; and I understood your question..it was a question that could have come up at any time, and I'm glad you asked it.
I rarely cry when reading posts, but you brought tears for me this time. I remember what it was like in the beginning of this; the memories are not what they were, but I still remember.
Your post tugged very hard at my heart when I read it; and although, I didn't walk the exact same path you are walking at this time, mine was very similar in the pain and heartache that is suffered in all of this.
The Lord knew what He was doing(as He always does) when He gave me the knowledge of how to write all these things out, as I did the research, learned, dealt with my husband's MLC, and looked to Him for understanding, patience and wisdom.
Many people do NOT understand where I come from when I say He leads me down this life's road, giving me what is needed to help others. Without Him, I could never have written these things.
He has been my rock, my salvation, my strength throughout my entire life.
I am never ashamed to say I ask Him for input when I answer people, no matter if it is in real life, in emails, or this messageboard.
Time is generally limited for me, but I will continue to come and check in on you.
Doesn't mean you have to take off and leave; not at all. Sometimes it helps when you have support, and know you're not alone in this.
All I can tell you for now, is read, read, and read..you'll also find other posters who are facing similar situations, and you can also learn from them, as well. Some are farther along, some are like you, just starting.
She loves company, and you two might hit it off. I really like her, she comes across as a strong, capable lady..though SHE doesn't see it in herself.
Regarding threads and new posts: Stay with this thread until it accumulates 100 posts, then press the "notify" key, sending them a message to "lock" the thread so it will go to the archives.
Like OP said, it's hard to keep up when new threads keep popping up. And most people, when they want to post their take on your situation, like to read from start to finish. So, when your thread reaches 100 posts, and you start a new one, copy and paste the link into your new post.
Like I said, I will come back in and check up on you as I can.
Take care of yourself, and I will catch you later.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
