My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

Lolawar-
Very funny that you referr to your husband as a 16 year old boy. If you read back in my post I said that my husbands relationship with the OW is very "high school". It really is. The whole thing is so ridiculous and I am also debating even just in the last few hours...why am I trying so hard for someone who has treated me so horribly? I do know that he treats strangers better than he has treated me.

I too am young (34 next month) and I feel it would almost be easier to start over....but would it really be easier in the end? I don't know. I do really love him and I do think he is "sick" and not in his right mind. Just two months ago he said what he regretted the most was that he hurt me. The question is, did he really mean it? I felt like the fog had been lifted for a few days at that time, but then he was right back talking with the OW.

I am luckier in a way I guess. The OW is moving to the other side of the country at the end of May. I can only hope that he will wake up and realize that it will not work out. She is 24 and going to school with people her own age 3,000 miles away. WTF is he thinking?

I too find it very hard to just watch my husband essentially destroy his life, our marriage and everything we have worked for during our marriage. Apparantly, none of this is important now. Very true to more I tried to point this out...he didn't care and he told me so.

Anyway, I have been very dark with no communication at all for the last 48 hours. Dburt I have been trying to do more for myself...I have spent loads of time with my best friend in the world and she has given me so much strength to keep going on. She doesn't pass judgement and just gives an ear to listen. Love her and her husband so much.

Dburt, I have always worn fru fru undies.... my husband loved it in the past. More recently he has said that being at our house is part of the problem, because he is attracted to me and it makes it hard for him to be here. I am not sure what the heck that means.