I, too, am a success story from a long time ago, and I am one of the "OLD WISE ONES" that Jack just insulted, LOLOLOLOLOLOL!!
I didn't know that requirement of coming back for awhile to help meant that I was supposed to be toting a diaper bag plus bottles and baby food! LOLOLOLOLOLOL!! I laughed in spite of myself when I read that, and don't take it personally at all; I actually NEEDED to laugh tonight.
I know what he means, though; as we in the past, had to "search" this out to better understand what we were dealing with, you too, will have to do the same. We may be here to assist you, as someone always so aptly puts it, but we can't do this for you...you are on your own.
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I grew because we all were helping each other and learning how to DB…not having some one spoon feed us and burping us on advice.
I wonder, if us ‘old wise’ ones aren’t hurting you guys. By doing just that.
Although, I laughed at that comment, I respectfully agree to disagree, Jack and I'll tell you why; someone always NEEDS to be here to help lead the way, IMHO.
FWIW, the birds DO eventually fly from the nest, I know I did, going on to better things...and everyone else will, too.
When someone understands a problem, the knowledge is passed on in the form of books, articles, internet, etc.
Yet, and I know this from experience of having dealt with many, people's understanding/comprehension is reached at different times in this; no one learns at the SAME pace. Sometimes things have to be explained in several different ways for one to "get it". You didn't learn all this overnight, no one else will, either.
Someone was here for me, when I started here 9 years ago;(hey, I know it's been a LONG TIME) never mind that I was quick to "get it"..it didn't have anything to do with that, not at all.
The "old wise ones" were symbols of "HOPE" "FAITH" "LOVE" and a feeling I was NOT alone, plus, a possibility that things would be all right in the end, NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENED.
That someone has been there, made it through, and it represented the fact that I would, too, given time and learning. It was made clear to me in the very beginning that my marriage might NOT make it, and as I grew, it became MORE clear to me.
The mentors supported me, helped me, were there when I needed a shoulder; other people were there, too in the SAME place as me, and we all stuck together as a family.
In time, I stayed on for awhile to help the others; remembering a time when I'd faced the "bomb", and was SO broken up.
The kindness here was overwhelming and it was a literal "hug" when I came in here. I got to know SO many people in my time here.
I always knew that I couldn't help unless I'd "been there".
Patience is learned in various different ways, and one of those ways is through dealing with people with problems. God never said He would teach you patience through ordinary things..he sends you people that take a LONG time to understand something, and you learn to articulate in various different ways until the light bulb comes on in their head.
And the Lord knows I've had MANY people who tried my patience until it was exhausted, but still remembering what I'd faced before, I continued to try and help them understand.
And I still do that now, in 3-D.
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
