and one additional thing to add...it looks like your H was escaping from life with all the DRAMA that came along with the R with this 22 year old. Sometimes when people are depressed..they want to escape from the predictable stable life they have...they seek something completely opposite...thinking that if they do things completely different...they will find happiness. Just a thought.
He was escaping alright but this was before I found out about the A. The girl resembles me at 22 (when we started dating).. he did all the things with her like we used to do when we were that age. it's mindboggling. BTW, we didn't officially start to R until December/January. I don't count anything before that as such. He was still having contact with her up until November 6th. (last time he saw her was in October) Before November, it was just pure hell and he was a totally different person.
My MIL has been overseas with him and hanging over him like a hawk since January.. I am very thankful for that.
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M: 32 H: 34 S:5 D: 3 D: 1 Together 11 years Married 7 Bomb: PA/EA 8/13/09 (for 1 year on and off) ILYBINILWY: 08/09
"The end of suffering happens with the end of wanting." -Laura Munson
