im not sure I read you right I understand the pain and it hurts so much in the beginning every second is painful and there seems no escape from it BUT in a short time the pain passes-- we get better therapy is a must after some healing time life becomes good again and better than before I dont know why this happens but it does we the LBS gain stability and yes happinesss life takes on something different maybe like the caterpaillar turns to butterfly?? so dont give up learn to tolerate the pain-- know it WILL pass PLEASE seek help immediately
peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Please talk to us! You were doing well before. You are going to be OK. We want to help you! Don't let what else is happening influence your actions. You CAN be happy. Things WILL get better.
Is there anyone you can get help from. Call 911 and talk to them.
DU.....please dont ever feel God has abandoned you I was there where youa re right this moment I felt I could no longer go on with out my husband...many times on my way home I had planned out exactly how I was going to end my life of pain.. I drove home practiaclly with my eyes shut because I was crying so hard and wanted to end it all... But God was with me the whole way....many many times I had those thoughts and I would cry out to God and by his grace I am still here.the bible says "he comes to heal the brokenhearted" and he has done that for me...I had days when all I could do was think of ways to stop my pain.......and death was the ony answer.... the one thing I have learned from all of this is that WE CANT FIX IT OR FIX THEM.....we have to let it go and turn it over to God....get some medication....stay on your knees and pray....he really does hear our prayers... PLEASE PLEASE DONT DO THIS, It WILL NOT SOLVE ANYTHING..... Heb 12 11 says
No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but PAINFUL. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and PEACE for those who have been trained by it. God disciplines those he loves D/U he has chosen us to stand for our husbands,our marriages, our family, for us to grow into the person he has planned for us..
I dont know if anyone has given you the link to this website I cant tell you how many times I have gone there and it has helped me so much.....rejoicemarriageministries.org.
I have been at this for over 3 yrs. and I can tell you from my heart the pain does get better and WE GET BETTER I have a better relationship with God because of me going thru this....have faith and dont give up, the devil's job is to SEEK, KILL,AND DESTROY, DONT LET HIM WIN......God is a good God.....read the word of God and like I said just talk to him he really does listen....may not feel like he does but he really does I can testify to that......
I appreciate the words of comfort, but there is no hope for me. I have disappointed myself , my family, and my husband. I am so ashamed on what I feel because of my H treatment of me.
I'm convinced that I can help everyone else by releasing myself from my own anxiety. I truly believe and it may be mostly for my husband, but that those I love most will be better off without me. I don't want to intefere in anyone's life and I don’t want to disappoint anyone, but I have been disappointed by the events that God allowed to happen and I feel compelled to stop the pain.
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
Let me tell you something about pain. Pain is a child in cancer ward refusing to give in to a deadly disease. Pain is a mother doing whatever it takes to keep her kids off the streets. Pain is the people in Haiti who are sifting through their homes and bodies.
Rather than you concentrating on your pain and how bad your situation is, start thinking about the blessings you have.
You have good friends. You have your health. And whether you want to believe it or not, you have God.
We have all understood the pain you feel. ALL of us. The pain of rejection, the fear of the unknown.
How did we all get through it? One day at a time. One moment at a time.
YOU can do it too. Get up. Stand up straight and take a deep breath. You will not be a victim of sadness any longer.
Get help if you need to. There's no shame in that.
Don't let the feelings overwhelm you. I know what it's like and I literally had to crawl out from where I was to get to a better place. YOU can do it too.
DO NOT give up on YOU.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
Your thoughts were my thoughts.....I did not want to live anymore.....I had it all worked out when where and how.....but I am still here and it HAS GOTTEN BETTER.......if I can do this so can you.......the pain does get better......do you have a dr you can go to they can give youmeds for these feelings and they truly work,when we are wounded by the events that have transpired in our lives there is help...help in the reasoning in our minds..... I ask you to please get some help.....do you think that by you taking your own life the pain will stop....no it wont it will only get worse....there is a real hell and there is no comfort there...nothing but more pain and more suffering but this time you cant kill yourself again to stop it..... You have been in my prayers all day long and I will keep praying for you, my heart is burdened for you..... I dont know who you are but I care for you.....please ask God for his strength his wisdom.....HE DID NOT MAKE THIS HAPPEN.....WE allowed the ENEMY to step right in to do his dirty work because we didn't pray for our families...for our marriages...for our husbands....dont let him win.....you are worth so much, YOU ARE WORTH SOMETHING TO ME!!! and I dont even know who you are but I know someone in your family loves you very much and they will never understand why you did this, they will alway wonder what could they of done to help you....no matter how many letters you write they will blame themselves.... try to get some sleep get some rest then go see a dr in the morning...may the angels of The Lord protect you tonight... I pray the hedge of protection around you and I pray I reach you somehow....or someone in here does...... May God's love surround you and comfort you in your time of need..
DU, your destiny IS unknown. Your H doesn't get to write your story - YOU do, by living your life and finding out what plans God has for you. I know how hopeless you are feeling, but it doesn't mean that your life is hopeless. Please listen to Old Pilot. He has a lot of wisdom. Call 911 and ask for help.
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me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
