I agree w/ Sandi- and I must say that you seem to have handled things very well thus far. What FIL does is his business I suppose, I hope whatever he does, if anything helps you.
You are fortunate that you were able to forge a good R w/ FIL and that W was not able to turn the tables on you w/ him.
My sitch is the opposite, and it really stinks to be left in the cold w/ everyone thinking you're crazy.
My W has done the same thing as far as having multiple A's (EA or PA), and consider yourself lucky that your W waited till the settlement was signed to switch her status to single...mine changed hers 5 months ago when we were going to MC, now "in a R" being moved out for a month and no M name anymore- nothing filed yet and still claiming, "I dont know what I want..."
Sorry I have not been involved in your sitch prior to tonight, but I do think you're doing things pretty well. We've all (accidentally/on-purpose) left a movie, picture, trinket, or article/book) out...in your case- she had moved out so it doesnt matter as much- IMO
