Invinceable

[BobbiJo]

Move near water!?! Take me with you....

[mishka422]

Seriously! Maybe it means I'm supposed to move to the lower rent apartments over near the pond. LOL! I actually would move there if it weren't for my mom.

[MichelleLT]

Hmmm, sounds like you should wait for a strategic time to leap.

If you file at the right time and get an order while he is making decent money, he will be the one who will have to file any requests for adjustments if his stupidity costs him the job or hours.

Get all the paperwork ready. Make sure all your ducks are in a row. And bide your time.

His tax refund next year will be yours. LOL

And tell me where you are moving to. Water sounds good to me!

[mishka422]

If you file at the right time and get an order while he is making decent money, he will be the one who will have to file any requests for adjustments if his stupidity costs him the job or hours

Exactly what they told me to do. I will shoot myself in the foot if I do it now.

Heck, let's all move together! Water sounds loverly!!

[mishka422]

Boy...did I call it or what?

I came to find Marc in his room working on a model truck. I saw the box and knew at once that it was Gabe's. He has had it for probably 7 years and never opened the box. I had gotten it for him for father's day one year so he and Marc could work on it together. Nope...never did. Now he has given it to Marc. That's fine but that also meant that he had been here today. Marc said he had come by the 'hang out' for a while. They stayed in the garage and talked apparently. The Marc offers up all this info with ZERO prompting from me. He said that the night that Gabe showed up here and parked in front of the house for 2 hours and had talked to Marc out in the car he told him that he had gotten his last paycheck that day. Today Marc asked him when he was working again and Gabe reminded him of their conversation. He had meant he wasn't working at the supermarket anymore. What did he tell me? He wasn't getting any hours. Well, it's tough to get hours someplace you aren't working. How stupid is that? Why lie to me anymore? The man can't tell the truth no matter what the situation. So, now that I know I sent him a text:

M-Can you just be honest with me? Do you work at Kroger anymore?
G-Not anymore since they said some of us wouldn't be getting any hours for at least 6 or 8 weeks so I resigned and I've been looking everyday.
M-And you didn't tell me that 2 weeks ago because? Much simpler than lying and saying you just had no hours. That was ridiculous. I keep wondering why you tell me these tales instead of just coming clean. Why? WTH am I going to do? have you thrown in jail? What's the point?

No answers from him. I don't expect any. He's such a coward. Being a man is far more than he is capable of.

DISGUSTING LIAR.

[MichelleLT]

It's a vicious cycle. It's his pride and guilt that keep him from admitting the truth to you. Doesn't make it easier to deal with, obviously doesn't excuse his lies and evasions, just saying.

Don't let it get to you. It's got nothing to do with you other than how it impacts your budget. It's not personal. He's probably not trying to get any reaction out of you. It just is.

I'm sorry you have to deal with that.

[mishka422]

Oh God! It devolved into a firestorm of sh!t!

G-Hey I'm not refusing to pay u. I cant help there aren't any dam jobs. its not like I'm not looking. And please dont say urgonna put me in jail cause u know ull hurt marc and urself cause i wont even be able to look at all. (yes, that is how he texts it)

M-you didn't read that correctly. I asked why you can't just be honest. Is it because you think I would do that? I said there would be no point. This isn't about the money, it's about continuing to lie. Why? What is the point in not being truthful at this point. If I were going to take drastic action I would have by now. God! Have you completely forgotten who I am?

G-The way u talk to me sometimes yes I have forgotten who u are and were. sorry.

M-I am not being nasty at all. I'm genuinely wanting to understand why you can't stop lying. Why couldn't you have just told me the truth?

G-Maybe cause i was hoping to get a job so i wouldnt have to have u mad and b!tch at me but obviously i didnt get one and i'm f*ckin trying every f*ckin day.

M-See...You are reading into this what I'm not saying. I'm not saying anything about you not having a job am I? I'm upset because you lied. Simple.

G-Its even harder for me cause my car isnt running good so i cant drive to far without worrying about breaking down.

M-Well, I understand you are frustrated. All I am asking is that you offer me some much earned respect as the mother of your son to just be forthcoming.

G-And id appreciate it if u didnt trash me to all ur friends on facebook.

M-WTH are you talking about? I never say one word about you to anyone on there in public and even in private it's extremely limited. Your actions no longer control me. I don't know where you are getting your info but it's faulty at best and slanderous at worst.

G-Yes I'm very frustrated and i am rying. i guess i lie cause i still dont like to upset u. and why did u ask me to be ur FB friend and then u unfriend me?

M-I only friended you so you could see pics of marc when I posted them. I realized you can see them anyway since Marc is your friend. And also because your girlfriend had the balls to friend request me. Um...No.

That was the end of it. I have nothing further to say to him. It's just a hideous situation. I quit. He really has no clue that lying is what upsets people, not the fact that he's jobless. Good GOD!

[LolaL]

Sweetie I get that the lying pisses you off. It would piss me off too.

But I need you to take a breath and let go a bit. Gabe still ticks you off way too much. That means he still has too much power over you.

Don't let him have it. Take steps to ensure that he has to pay his support. Regardless of whether or not his wages are being garnished, if it is in the divorce decree, he has to pay the c/s. He pulls your strings because he knows he can. Call his bluff. File charges. He is Marc's father, and should be responsible for assisting in the financial well-being of his child.

(((Hugs)))

[MichelleLT]

Well, you told him that his lying upsets you, not his job situation. So, you did what you could.

Re: the last bit, sounds like he didn't know about the drama with the broom. Seems like he is resenting the fact that you unfriended him without a real explanation.

Not that he necessarily deserves one lol.

Take a deep breathe. Step back.

You said your piece. If he chooses not to hear, that's his problem. Save yourself the drama chica.

[mishka422]

Saving it. I HATE drama! Now I just feel like total crap. There is no way I want him to have any control over me. It sucks so bad that he thinks lying to me about something so important is necessary. He thinks I'm such a raging lunatic that I'm going to blast him for not having a job. Good God! Have I changed that much? Have I become someone who would rage at him because of something that is mostly out of his control? Heavens, I must have become someone I don't even know if he could think this about me.

Lola - I can't go after him for the cs. I'll screw myself big time because the judgment will come back zero and I'll have to jump through hoops to get it adjusted later assuming he ever gets a job.

Stepping away. I'm all screwed up and really don't know what to do next. I can't fix me, why do I expect Gabe to fix himself? Why keep at this? No one is going to come out of this alright, so I'm tired of trying.