thanks bill-

yes... today was tough. because last night it was like "ok, lets have a go at this"... then today... almost silence.

but the analogy to the extended hand to the wounded animal is one that I thought of a lot... it seems very apt.

yes... it makes total sense that she would recoil. I just hate it when she does... and it is hard not to react to it.

she said tonight that she would still plan on coming down wednesday... so we shall see...

I like the mason analogy as well... I will continue to think about it that way.