Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Thanks Flowmom! I just read a fabulous NC letter that Allen posted on mb28's thread. So, I am thinking that (and I am scared to say the month in case I chicken out) I will go until maybe May, then try the NC letter before just up and asking for an ultimatum or D. Because I need 3 months to find a place and don't want to do it when I am trying to deal with the beginning of the school year.

The timing sucks- if I didn't have S I would have done it way sooner (actually I probably would have D'd and then regretted it), BUT life is not neat and tidy! I also honestly do not believe that if I went NC it would guarantee an end to the A but it would be more of a step closer to D.

Sorry to keep repeating myself!