wow, that is a very positive NC letter. I don't see punishing statements in there. It's short. It doesn't talk about a timeline or saying "I won't wait forever you know!!"
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
1. Do NOT be at HOME when you send this 2. Do NOT be ALONE when you send this - be with a friend 3. Do NOT have your PHONE ON - surrender the phone to a frined
Your H WILL REACT TO THIS.. he WILL CALL YOU.. he WILL PURSUE.. this is a LOT of PRESSURE to throw at him....
You need to PROTECT yourself from the RESPONSE...
PLAN AHEAD.. if you ARE giong to do a no contact, you need to PROTECT yourself, that means stay with a friend for a few weeks so you CAN'T be pressured by him.. he CAN affect you, you have made that clear, you cannot stick to this NC letter if you stay at home
AT least I don't think its feasible.. so you need to PLAN for this.. you need to prepare to protect yourself from him pursuing you
I'm sorry, I didn't mean to worry anyone. Thank you so much for all the advice and checking on me. I actually fell asleep, much needed after that emotional drama earlier. Going to get the kids right now, I will write up the email and post it to make sure it's right, I really like that last draft Allen thank you
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
It is super hard work to get kids ready for school let alone weeks away from home. Yes, Ideally mb should vanish, but environmental stability is important for kids too.
Maybe have a friend or family member stay with you to run interference. Changing the locks will help too.
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
i agree with WhatNow. Change the locks and have someone stay with you mb28. I find myself in partial NC (not contacting husband) even though I didn't plan it. when I feel the need to call him I call my dad or I call my cousin or a friend that is up on my stitch. I just talk to them until the feeling goes. That is the benefit of having someone stay with you tht can run interference also.
Great NC letter :-)
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo
Yes, the alternative to you giong is having someone stay with you.. either way works... just do NOT try this ALONE. .it won't work.. you NEED ACTIVE INFORMED SUPPORT IN the HOME you are staying at... interference is a VERY GOOD description of the idea
Sorry everyone for advocating a NON-MWD strategy here, but I honeslty LIKE Penny's approach better for affairs!
Lets hope this doen'st get me tossed outa here! lol
