I do not follow her around, but if I come in and she is there I will give her a hug. Same as bed. She has on a few occasions come in and hugged me before bed. I am not sure what to do with this one. I told her that I missed that the first day and that I was going to give her a hug everyday from now on. So if I stop doing it now, aren't I shouwing that I am stopping the changes I made? So if I stop this little thing, aren't I saying that the other changes are going to revert to what our relationship was before and she is not going to want to stay for that, right?
Usually a WAW does not want the affection from her H. If your W acts as if she doesn't want it, then just stop it and it doesn't matter what she thinks about what was said. She doesn't want it....period, and that is what "matters".
If she hugs you before bedtime, it may just be her way of saying goodnight. (Is it short and then she turns around to do something else?) As long as this is in a walk-away stitch, you wait for her to make the first move. Do not pursue her with any physical affection.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
