I am on IM at work all day, I need to be for communication with coworkers. So she gets on there everyday and we end up talking. So I should NOT send her things first? Won't that make her feel like I am ignoring her? We ususally are just talking about what happened today or with our son or whatever, not relationship things.
One of the absolutely best things you can do with a WAW is to become less available. If she can have you any time of the day she decides to use her computer.....then there is no unavailablity and there is no challenge or mystery.
You simply have other things to do rather than talk back & forth with her throughout the day. If she asks what's wrong or why you aren't talking, then you answer her with the fact you've been busy. My H and I have been M for many years and we've never used TM,IM's or emails to each other at work.
If you do nothing but sit in front of the computer all day.....then you may have to make your responses very short. Let her pursue you.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
