I would say the RV, in my opinion isn't about change of the marriage as much as it is change of the environment in the marriage.
The activities we worked on hit some real sore spots for me AND my wife. They didn't cause any change, but they made me want to change. Now that we better understand the problem's effect on our R, I can choose to ignore it, or change in some way.
The skills from the other books I've read and things I've heard hear are going to be the key (I think) to making lasting changes.
