Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Thank you all for not getting annoyed with me for being defensive!

I know what I will do if he wants to file. I will remind him that I was willing to make our marriage better than before and this is 100% his choice. Tell him I will let him have one day to get the stuff he wants while I take S with me to a friend's. Tell him we are not friends, just co-parents.That we need to exchange S like every other divorced couple. That I don't want to live in the house (it's in his name) so I will be moving out by 3 months from now. I think that's it.

Well I am reluctant to change much more because I have been occupying myself and receiving more effort on his part. So shouldn't I be doing more of the same? And
please remind me why/how it could be beneficial to not act pleasant but be Spock like. What will I be looking for from WH?

Remember-I observed these changes in WH I think starting about 3 weeks ago but of course last week had the cancer scare. So I am saying 2 weeks. I think I should live in Latin America or Hawaii or something because they move at a slower pace and everyone else here seems to be in more of a hurry than I am! lol which is 180 for me but that was before I met you all.

About him wanting to come home- I will think about it. There are cons to living apart after an A has recently ended.