Going straight forward...antlers 6th thread.

[ClingingToHope]

I don't know, CityGirl. Antlers clearly believes the breakdown of the M is the root cause -- and most likely it is. BUT Mrs. Antlers isn't going to want to hear any of that.

So I'd pick apart the plan. Does it sound reasonable -- it sounds a little overboard to me -- and work together on it.

Last year both D11 and D7 had terrible years in school -- for varying reasons.

The crux of the problem with D11 was the afterschool sitters weren't making her do her homework, leaving two bickering, tired parents to do it with her when we'd get home.

So that was a disaster.

This year we screened our afterschool sitter much better and told her the NO. 1 priority was for D11 to have her homework done by 6 p.m.

D7 is a different story. The school district started a special program for kids with ADHD. It's been a Godsend and she's thriving.

Now in W's brain, I can see her thinking, "see, we split up and the girls are doing better."

They are doing better acedemically because we learned our lesson last year and came up with a plan. Emotionally, they are both hurting.

But I'm not going to fight that fight with W. She'll figure it out eventually. I just focus on the girls and their emotional well being.

Focus on the problem. She's probably sitting there waiting for Antlers to focus on the R. I don't think it'll do any good to go down that road.