I think what you WERE doing was VERY EFFECTIVE... but you need to KEEP DOING that... you did a complete 180 today... it set you back a few weeks most likley... I think its possible to put that fire out.. we just need to send him anotehr letter telling him you are HURT and the AFFAIR needs to END and that HURTING your CHILDREN with a DIVORCE is NOT an OPTION for you

He needs to be TOLD by a FT how much damage divorce does to kids.. there is a MOUNTAIN of evidene to prove that divorce HARMS chidlren... he likley thinks they will "get over it" in teh long run... they DON'T