flowmom | need to commit to myself

[flowmom]

CG, I think you have a good idea of what is going on for H and I agree with much of your analysis. Except that he IS very goal-oriented. The problem is that he hasn't had family, marriage, or parenting goals, only personal individual goals. We used to have wierd conversations where I'd say "if you could live anywhere, where would you live?" and he'd say "you mean if I was single?". Ummm NO! This was after we had children. It's like he couldn't envision a life for US and talk about or work for mutual goals.