Divorce is not an option for me.. .I am a parent and parents do NOT divorce as this hurts childen.

I do think we have a marriage worth saving, and I would really like us to try together. And your affair is huring both of us and is not heatlhy. I think it's best that we don't have any contact of any kind until you end your affair. Any and all contact must be through your mom until you end your affair.