The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

Congratulations on the promotion AF.

Thanks very much!

It sounds like your own LBS fog is lifting and you're starting to see her for who she is now. This whole ordeal has changed you whether you like to admit it or not. You're beginning to see what a disruptive force she is on the harmony you have built up with your D. Carry on observing objectively. Watch her actions and she will reveal herself.

My fog has lifted and you're right, I am seeing her for who she is. I know for a fact that this ordeal has changed me--I'm willing to admit that up front. It's funny that you would say this. I actually went to lunch with my wife today and she asked me out of the blue if I had any seconds thoughts or regrets about her moving home. I told her that I had. She totally overreacted and I told her so. Her first comment was to say, fine, just go ahead and file, someone will want me. So I asked her if she wanted me to be honest or did she want me to lie about how I felt? I told her if I could express how I felt honestly then how could we be expected to get past any of this?

She started crying and I just looked at her until she calmed down and she said I was right but that she felt that I hated her and that our daughter hated her. I told her that if she's looking for sympathy for what she did then she wouldn't get any but if she wanted to be a part of our life then she needed to act accordingly. She finally calmed down.

The old me wouldn't have said anything but I was just calm and to the point. I didn't get excited or emotional and it seemed to quickly calm her down when she saw that I wasn't stressed about it.

Take your time and think LOGICALLY about it. Speak to your D. Observe your D and see if W's presence is affecting her adversely. You still have a lot of introspection to go through bud.

I am trying to apply logic to this sitch and will continue to do so. I speak to my daughter about this all the time. She told me it's my decision and she told me she doesn't like the way her mom reacts to certain situations and it's easier to deal with just me.

Thanks very much for your insight.