ps--if anyone has any wisdom along the lines of relationships-post-D, I'm open to hearing it. Obviously I have a lot of triggers and a lot of baggage--but learning to work with it in a way that feels safe. Unless I sabotage a potentially very good thing, that is.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012