Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[WhatNow]

I didn't mean NC nm. Just change things up. Maybe make him work a bit harder.

For example: Don't be cheerful and pleasant. That will be difficult for you b/c it ooozes out of you!

You are right, you don't want to force anything. You do not have to be happy with him and his behavior either. What would he miss most about you that he is still getting? Friendship?
I am just suggesting you 180 a few things, or 1!

Stop looking for signs! Be ready for BOTH possibilities.

If he wants to come home, what would you say?
Go live alone for awhile? (IMHO a good idea so you don't have to watch any withdrawal stuff)
MC to explore the possibility of him coming home?
Don't make it easy for him.