Huband is having an emotional affair

[ALJ]

Thanks Allen,

I was at a loss for words when he told me about OW. I started to panic and that when I started asking all those validating questions. Should I bring up his relationship with this OW again and tell him about how cruel, sleazy, and wrong it is?

H did call today because his cell phone had been shut off and I usually make arrangements for the bill. This is only because his unemployment still goes to our joint account and he only pays 3 bills out of it. I make the arrangements for this bill because he never knows what is in the account. He does not take money out of this account so the rest of his unemployment is for me to use as I see fit. His other 2 bills are automatically deducted. If H does get a job, then I won't have to do this anymore. The unemployment will be stopped and he will have to deal with trying to pay all of his bills plus child support on a minimum wage paycheck. As of right now, H's unemployment is due to expire this month and if he does not get a job(which I am sure he will), he will have to reapply. Plus, his lease on his apartment expires in May and he will have to either move or sign a new one. At the moment, h has a roomate (a guy that we all grew up with.) It did not have to come to this but this is what he wanted.

When I talked to him about the bill, he sounded down and out. Its like he wants to say something to me but won't. Lots of sighing and sounds of despair from him. He has run out of his seed money and his business is not taking off like he wanted. Not to say that it won't, but its not looking good. So now he out putting in applications everywhere he can. He can't even drive up to see the kids because he has no funds left. It seems like his fantasy world is starting to fall apart.