So, it was almost the 365 day anniversary (i.e a year) of formal divorce busting and what did Kara have to show for it?
Let's see....
1. A library of self help books,abbreviations and quaint phrases to sprinkle into daily conversation such as cognitive dissonance, "act as if",LBS, WAS. Etc. Could she now claim to be trilingual since DBusting had its own language? Even if it was one that ordinary people did not understand and accused her of "making it up" ? 2. An unshakeable faith in God and thanks for everything He had done for her. Note: This list is not in numerical order or number 2 would be number 1. 3. An arsenal of makeup and shoes. Hard to go wrong there. 4. The knowledge that you don't die from a broken heart. You don't get broken from a broken heart. Unless you choose to. And even in your most melodramatic, woe is me fit, you don't actually pass out from crying in a weakened state on the floor to be later discovered by the WAS. That'll show them! Hmm...doesn't work. At the most you get a really bad headache and puffy eyes. 5. The knowledge that life was still good. Yes, siree Bob. 6. The knowledge that forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. Who wants to be a wrinkled up bitter old woman (or man)? So not attractive to anyone.Self included. 7. Realizing that sometimes letting go is the best way of holding on. 8. The rediscovery of Kara. Still alive. Still kicking. Still seeking knowledge. Still funny, attractive, desirable. (Still humble??) LOL. 9. A understanding of Mr. Kara. In more fundamental terms than before. A deeper kind of love for Mr. Kara. Isn't that ironic?? (Insert laugh here) 10. And...drum roll, please. Peace. She had peace.
Hi Kara, Very timeley for me! I am coming up on my 1 yr. "bomb-aversary" (using your lingo) on Mar. 14th, and lately have been thinking back to last year. I still have a long way to go. You've given some good points to think over.
I read your thread when I need some uplifting words & encouragement! Thanks for sharing with us.
Chatter, I will TAKE that $200 and I know just where to SPEND it!!
I am doing well. I have been reading alot but not posting really. The people on this Board are often in my thoughts and prayers (sniff,sniff).
Not much going on in my neck of the woods. I have been concentrating on Increasing the Happy. It is like turning up the volume on your radio. I am turning up the Happy.
So, what makes me happy now?
Spending time in God's presence and letting Him change me My family and friends Singing/yelling along with my favorite songs on the radio Being silly (muhahahaha. Didya guess that I am really good at that one?) Working out and trying new classes at the gym Looking through my favorite magazines and planning my spring wardrobe. Yes, I had to GO there. Great shoes in my line of vision. Trying out new recipes
I could go on but why bore you guys?
Anyhow, more happy is good for me.
Mr.K? I am working on me and letting him work on himself. My focus is really on getting me right. On becoming an authentic individual who can build a great marriage. A piece of cake, right??
(Did we talk about this?) Do they have Zumba by you? I made fun of it originally... I tried it tonight. LMAO! Crap! I don't have the hip movements and/or the stamina to handle this class! Maybe there's truth in the dance in relation to my SSM! Ack!
Ok, let's talk about something importante! The Spring Wardrobe! I'm still totally into the straight leg jeans you can roll... The only thing awesome left on me are my calves, so I rock them! And, My GOD, there are rompers everywhere! Hey, if I could go braless, I'd be thrilled to wear one again! Thank God for the continuation of tunics, and if I see another "camp" shirt, I'm going to puke!
What's Mr. K doing to work on himself? Are you two actually spending time together or are you working in parallel?
Are you on the alt? If so, find me... deebee handful. I have a podcast series to send you. You will LOVE it!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
