My UFO (unbelievably fabulous observations)

[hoosiermama]

Hi, Andabelle!

yeah, the point with my daughter trying to make it all ok is exactly my point. Yeah, I'd be uncomfortable--but it's D14's night and she'd be more uncomfortable than I am. Better that she go and have fun with the aunts and uncles and cousins. We will celebrate at another time, and it will be ok.

I don't know whether my co-workers will actually come to graduation, but I went to a baptism for our secretary's daughter (with D14) and we had a great time; everyone will be completely scandalized but they won't be able to say a word because my friends are welcome and have enormous goodwill! This homogenous white Catholic church could use a little infusion of spontaneity and joy! As for witchy woman--one can only hope!!!

My Texas friend. Sigh. He's as supportive as he can be, I think, while juggling a million crises, an intensely busy work and business travel schedule, single parenthood with a 16-year-old daughter, and all that goes with that. While I still panic when it feels he's pulling away, most of the time I can see it's due to busy-ness and his own personal recovery from an unwanted divorce (our timetable was almost exactly the same, altho we didn't reconnect until about 9 months into it all). As opposed to actual pulling away--altho there is very definitely that rubber band pursue-evade thing that happens, but it isn't malicious--it just is. While I'd really be comfortable if he was still infatuated, I think we're getting an opportunity to get to know each other, and we're two pretty wounded people with years of therapy between us and it's just going to take awhile to see where this might go. In the meantime, there's some very nice trust and comfort levels and mutual support--and that's not a bad place to begin. The slowness, tho, plays havoc with my underlying abandonment issues at times.

Thanks for asking!