If you have books about addiction available, READ them.
Your dad is just doing what dads do. He's trying to protect you.. he's not wanting you miserable or hopeless, he's just being protective...
Your HUSBAND should be doing that, that's the problem...
Anyways...
Phil McGraw likes to say this :
Those who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.
So, why whisper? I wouldn't like it either.. and a dabatable point but some people might consider that RUDE?
Your F is right though, your H is not going to grow up overnight.
WOuld you be better off divorced and trying to find a R with a new man who may do better by you? Along with dealing wiht your X-H's visitation?
is THAT a better life for you? I dunno... you never know if thre's a better choice out there.
Most FT's the good ones will tell you to explore EVERY AVENUE inside your marriage first... that I think is the BEST advic eyou are gong to get on that one...
You wil NEVER know whats out THERE waiting for you... but you CAN find out what the potential is HERE right NOW.. so I say do that.
Your parents would be good people to tap into for advice about your H... They have a relevant background here. I honestly think he is addicted to OW and that environment. Glass talks about addiction for a half dozen pages or so in her book Not Just Freinds.
H DOES need to grow up, which is a separate point, but the addiction makes that nearly impossible.
If you can get him CLEAN from OW, THAT will give him a fighting chance...
