feel like giving up - pt 2

[Gnosis]

Luv, I know you probably better than anyone else on this board so I'm going to point out where you're screwing up:

Point WELL TAKEN - I know we both suck at it and I've told Mr Luv this myself. I believe our communication is really bad.

Your mistake is "TELLING" him. It doesn't sound that bad on this board, but you know that I'm talking about. Your tonality and the way you speak TO him... like his mother... who you ARE NOT. THAT is what is bad.

May I suggest the following: Reveal (not tell) that you are going to seek therapy to see how you can improve communication. Tell him this is what you need to do and ask him if he is prepared to help you. Do it as an experiment and gauge his reaction. Choose your timing wisely i.e. NOT when he has just gotten home from work and NOT when you can see he is in a bad mood.

I only know one thing - stay consistent and that's what I'm going to be doing while I figure out my future.

Consistency is only helpful if it is producing results. Make sure that it is GOOD consistency and not BAD. Continue to seek things that make you happy without depending on your H for that happiness.

it really helps me see outside the box.

I'll keep kicking you while you're in that box. Can you see how much your judgment has been clouded by your hurt and resentment? You need to work on this.

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