No no no! I think it was time to tell him to speak to you respectfully or shut the f... up.
I have to agree with the above. H has a pattern of treating you with contempt, and contempt is one of Gottman's top issues that causes divorce. If you think it would help, maybe get a Gottman book and get H to read a short passage in MC. Contempt is a pattern that is NOT compatible with happy M. You need to set boundaries when this happens...not in a defensive, hurt way, but in a *poof* you've disappeared way after a quick firm NO.
I'm really proud of you for going for a walk. That was a good response for you and for your M. Don't let him practice doing this behaviour on you over and over. The more you interrupt his nasty habit, the more you break the pattern.
And DO NOT share a computer. The way that people use computers is very personal. It's just not worth it. That doesn't solve the underlying issue but it sets an indirect boundary.
me: 42 | STBXH: 41 | T: 18 | M: 10 | separation: Jan 3, 2010 | they deserve better: S7 & D4 current thread: http://tinyurl.com/3y8sxcp .: first breathe, then heal, then start LIVING :.
