I suppose though that you were the right people for each other at some point. So you both have decided to do the work. From what I have read, you still want to control him and how he reacts to you. There are a couple of ways to work on that: once you aren't upset tell him how sad you were that he didn't come to greet you after you had been gone or Show him how you want to be greeted by doing this for him when he comes home.
I am not an expert just a divorced lady with 4 kids and a psych. degree! I have time to reflect on my own situation and am getting better each day.
I hope you will continue to get there each day in your marriage. Make it a goal to make each day a little better than the day before.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
So you both have decided to do the work. From what I have read, you still want to control him and how he reacts to you. There are a couple of ways to work on that: once you aren't upset tell him how sad you were that he didn't come to greet you after you had been gone or Show him how you want to be greeted by doing this for him when he comes home.