I know that answer is a little vague and other than me saying it is worth the effort tenfold. I would say to your W, 19 years together is a lot of time, give it one weekend, heck we'll spend more time than that even dividing our stuff up. Good luck.
To add to that - I get the idea of why it needs to be vague because it isn't a 'self-help' and it couldn't be done without your spouse. Also, it is often a last step for many couples, so if it is done wrong, then it would be easy to say, "been there, done that" without really doing it. If I had known all the details, I would've missed the subtle differences. After two days, I probably don't even fully get all the differences.
In some ways, there are parts that those who can't go need to know of (I think). I hope I don't cross a line here on these blogs~
I'm ready for more backslides now, got the energy and reminders to see the bigger picture, I think.
Are you going to be able to make the post sessions, or did you take the videos?
