feel like giving up - pt 2

[Gnosis]

Luv this is the most important thing:

COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY - Because you both suck at that.

When he is talking about a future move to a new job with you guys... it means he wants his family.
When he comes come early - two nights in a row... means that's where he really wants to be.
When he puts his blackberry away and tells D to put hers away... it means he wants to spend uninterrupted time with his family

When his family is busy pushing him away he is going to feel rejected and hopeless. YES, THIS IS HIS OWN DOING... I understand that. Yes, these are the consequences for his actions, I understand that too.

But if your dog chews up your slippers -- you can punish him by leaving him without food for the night. But if you carry on depriving him of food he has a choice:

(a) starve to death or (b) leave home and search in the trashcans for scraps of food.

Which choice do you think the dog is going to make?

EDIT: To be clear we're talking about an animal here not your H.