H4L: "This sucks. I hate these conversations. The way to end these is for you to not do what you did or don't talk to me about it or I avoid you."
This is the kind of common, depressive fatalism I fear my H has. No larger world view such as no, just you work on this and I'll work on that and soon the small amount of work two people do will amount to success. If you're wedded to fatalism or pessimism or narrow failure world view or fear, you can't see a bigger picture. Nothing you can do about this.
H4L said: I'm so tired of feeling rejected and like I have to be perfect to win him back. He doesn't even have any idea i feel that way.
I don't know if sharing that or not is counter-productive at this time. Might be more fuel for the kneejerk pessimism. Hate to say that. But he seems to be in a see? that's proof! mood lately. So maybe less kindling. Is MC too much for him to digest so quickly do you think?
