The thing that made me notice how your husband is just repeating the parental pattern is his comment about his new apartment and not having as much time for his son.
I remember you writing how he said his father was never around, and here HE is ACKNOWLEDGING he's being distant to his son but he's not DOING anything about NOT becoming his father...
If you can find a better TIGHTER way to word that into a truth dart DO IT.
Something like :
Unless you change soon your SON is going to turn out the same as you - unwanted by his dad and miserable
Not sure how to word it...
I am an eingineer too... well, Software Engineer, some Engineers don't consider that "real engineering" lol
That list you have is perfect btw, very simple and to the point.
Does your dad councel gambling addicts or is it just sustance abuse cases?
If your Dad is interested, get him to watch Beautiful Girls with you, its a great film, there IS infidelity going on in teh film, it would be quite educational for you... you will see THREE MEN and their stories about how they do a LOT of DAMAGE to a LOT of people because they don't want to grow up...
They keep fantasizing about attractive women that they THINK might offer a better life for them, so they IGNORE and AVOID the one in front of them... you shoudl enjoy it and identify with it.
