maybe all 12 year old girls are the same after all..I do think the she uses it as a crutch....The abandonement issues come not from her mother/father divovrcing but due to a relationship her mom had with a man soon after..he was a pastor living a double life..(it's a long story)anyway...she references this breakup...and says she fears me leaving..so I listen..tell her I'm not going anywhere..give them all a lot of my time..
All you can do is reassure her, as you have been doing. I have done the same with my daughter. I can't give her what she wants, her family back together, but I can give her "our new family." And make it hte best it can be.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
