OK, ya, if you can find a better one that you think he would go to.. that's best...

I really don't see why he won't go to the same one as you... it's VERY hard for a therapist to HELP a couple when tehy only hear ONE of the spouses ya know?

This is frustrating... let me work on it.. I don't know why he's playing this avoidance game with the therapists...

It MAY be the case that he's admitting his affair in secret to HER and he doesnt' want her telling you.. that's my first guess as to why he won't go to the same one as you