oh, there's no way I'd miss graduation! I was only thinking about skipping the dinner. In fact, skipping dinner seems the only gracious thing to do, since relatives are coming in from out of town and I'm sure they'd love to be able to celebrate with D14. I can sit thru graduation and look for all the world like I'm calm, cool, and graceful--it's just that I don't want to sit at a table with xH and OW indefinitely afterwards. Awkward for D14, too.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012