hhh is right. It will take however long it takes. Good for you for getting out there, but if you're not ready for more then you're not ready. And remember, just because a guy is great doesn't mean he's the right one for you. It was true before you got married and it's still true now.
I think it would be great for you to continue dating with the intention of having fun ONLY, no thoughts whatsoever about relationships. Right now the focus should be on having fun, meeting new people, and GAL. In fact I might even go so far as to declare a moratorium on new R's for a year just to take the pressure off yourself.
If you love somebody, set them free. http://tinyurl.com/2empx2g
