Twins had b'ball game Sat. W asked if I was coming or not. I said of course, why wouldn't I. She said I had been going out a lot lately so she figured I may have plans. (GAL working?) Boys played two games and did well. W and I didn't talk much, she was kind of distant. We got home and she asked if she should get a sitter for tonight. I asked why what was going on. She said she was going to help at school for a trivia noght fund raiser. I told her sure get one and I would come up and help also. She said she didn't volunteer me because she didn't know what I had planned. I said fine, don't get a sitter I will stay home with the kids. I then called some friends and invited them over and for them to bring their kids also and we would have a bonfire and roast hot dogs and marshmellows and then play cards or something and the kids could play together. People started showing up right as W was leaving, @6:00 pm and she asked what was going on, and I told her. Of course she said why didn't I tell her, the house was a mess, she didn't have anything to make to eat, on and on. I said I would handle it, no big deal, go have fun, me and the kids would have a good time. We did have fun. I figured she would get home late, but she showed up @10:30, earlier than most nights when she goes to "have a beer" after her meetings of ball games. She was her regular old self with everyone there and I acted the same and had a good time. BTW, all there knew at least a little of what was going on with us and were all told not to say anything to W about it, and none did. All left close to midnight and we covered the kids up who had fallen asleep in the living room and we went to bed. She slept in bed that night, I guess because all the couches were taken! Sun. I took the kids to religion class and then church where son was a server for the first time. He was a little nervous but did great. I took some pictures and told him how proud I was. We went to my parents for lunch and to help my Dad with a few projects at their house. Sent W a txt telling her where we were and she txt back, "OK". Again, that is a little something because she usually doesn't txt any response back. When we got home, she was napping so we all went outside to enjoy the warm weather. She woke up and we all had supper. She was OK, not overly friendly but not pissy either. Later, I gave kids showers and got them ready for bed. She was paying bills and doing the banking and her cell phone rang. I know the one call at least wasn't from OM, then home phone rang and she was on it for a while and getting txts on cell. She then went outside and talked for a least an hour. In the mean time, I put kids in bed and got their stuff ready for school. Then I watched TV for a while and fell asleep in recliner. I woke up and she was in shower. I put vehicles in garage and a few other things and she came out and turned TV on. I stuck my head in living room and told her goodnight, I was going to bed. She said goodnight and off I went. She did come to bed a while later.
So-GAL having a small party going out with friends more often
180's-not getting upset when she doesn't include me in her plans acting as if being lovingly distant Helping if she asks but not seeking her out not asking when she will be home and what she is doing
Is it working? I don't know, I hope but I know I had a good time and the kids did too.
I know I have to and am doing this for me, but I sure hope in time, she will join me and be a family again.
Am I doing OK or missing anything? Please let me know, thanks.
