Let me put it THIS way...

If you have to ASK her or TALK to her, its pursuing

If you can do it on your OWN then its NOT

If you make dinner, that's good. If you ASK her what she WANTS for dinner, that's pursuit... see?

Just make the damn dinner and leave her alone... if she eats it, tha'ts fine, if she dont'.. that's fine too

leave her alone